Mumabulous has spent an inordinate amount of time recently sifting through dozens of Mummy blogs. The thing that comes through most strongly (besides the breadth of talent out there in cyberland) is the self-depreciation, the feelings of inadequacy and the guilt. These themes are universal. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a single mother doing it tough or happily coupled up, in the paid workforce or a SAHM, it seems that we are all united by our sense of failure. I’m saddened by this and I think its high time my Mumrades in the blogosphere turned it around. Come on ladies – you can’t all be awful mothers. I am sure your friends and neighbors are not on the verge of calling DoCS on you for your terrible neglect of the children.
So you may have given your kids a couple of biscuits to stop the whining or perhaps you left the house without brushing their teeth. Mostly heinously of all you may have even sat them in front of some mindless DVD so you could have a cup of tea and read Perez Hilton- you brazen strumpet! I believe its time to reflect on all you manage to do for your family and if we cant bring the “sexy” back at least lets try to bring the “adequacy” back.
Since becoming a mother I’m certain you have ;
- Fed your kids three nutritious meals a day most of the time. The odd McDonalds Happy Meal or pizza night wont lead them down the obesity path.
- Managed to feed, dress and get the kids out of the house to daycare/school/play dates/swimming lessons on time most mornings. We all know that this can be tougher than negotiating a solution to the European debt crisis. Dont under rate this achievement every day.
- Regardless of whether you’re in paid employment or not, I am sure you have spent countless hours in the park, bored senseless, just to get your kids out into the wholesome great outdoors.
- You’ve sacrificed thousands of dollars of “shoe” money to kid’s entertainment over the years.
- You’ve read a bedtime story just about every night. Whilst Cat In The Hat or Where’s The Green Sheep? was entertaining the first few dozen times, these tittles lose their gloss on the 500th outing.
- You’ve stayed up all night trying to comfort a sick child. This is a feat on par with winning an Olympic marathon. It takes a similar amount of stamina.
- If you’ve got school kids, you’ve helped with their homework every evening or perhaps even volunteered for canteen duty or reading. And you thought your school days were behind you?
- You’ve provided a first class limousine service, ferrying your kids around to all their extra curricular activities and social engagements. While we’re on this point, you’ve also been an indefatigable executive assistant and event co-ordinator for your family brand.
There must a thousand more items I could add to this list but I’m feeling exhausted already.Dont you think you’ve earned the right to a cuppa and half and hour of the mental junk food of your choice? Don’t berate yourself because the floor is littered with toys or dishes are piling up in the sink. Your kids are thriving! You are a star!