Small Gesture – BIG Difference


P1 is a miracle of modern science. She’s an IVF baby conceived on the first round. Anyone who’s danced with infertility will know how extremely fortuitous this is. Thousands of couples endure cycle after cycle of this physically and emotionally exhausting procedure only to be met with soul crushing disappointment. A healthy pregnancy on the first go is like a lottery win. However it very nearly didn’t turn out that way.

I recall a Saturday evening almost six years ago. I had been injecting myself with hormones each evening for two weeks before hand forcing my ovaries to give up as many eggs as possible. The oestrogen overdose had made my ovaries swell to the size of tennis balls and my skin break out in pimples of a similar size. Worse still the hormones made me tired beyond belief. It was like a hung over haze but without the fun drinking bit. On this particular Saturday evening I was scheduled to take my “trigger injection” – cocktail of hormones prompting the ovaries to release their cargo for harvest. It also happened to coincide with a girlfriend’s wedding on a boat on Sydney Harbor.

I attended the wedding feeling and looking like shite, toting  my IVF equipment in a conspicuous bright orange cooler bag. It completely co-ordinated with my cocktail dress – NOT.  Timing is all important with the IVF procedure. I was due to take my injection at 10pm which basically meant shooting myself up in the ladies toilets on board. I was given three glass vials of hormone for good measure, which as it turned out was very wise of the good people at Sydney IVF. Despite having only consumed one glass of champagne, the first vial snapped in my fingers. The second met with a similar fate. At this point I did what any overwrought and hormonal woman would do – I panicked. I raced out and pleaded with Dadabulous to help me. He was reluctant as slipping into the ladies loos at a wedding is not a good look. However he finally yielded to my pathetic whining.

Back in the ladies bathroom he didn’t know what to do either. I was about to open up my third and last precious vial when serendipity struck. An attractive dark skinned girl entered the room. I had only briefly made her acquaintance at the Hens night but my friend the bride had spoken of her often.  I knew she just happened to be a doctor. “Excuse me. You’re a doctor aren’t you?” I implored. She very generously helped me, slipping the vial onto the needle with zen like ease. I was competent enough to take it from there and my trigger injection was administered right on time.

Within the month I was pregnant and Dadabulous finally proposed. Of course nine months after that the bundle of chubby cheeked cuteness that is P1 arrived. We named her Grace. I’m not a religious person but to me she represents the Grace of God.

Baby Grace

Fast forward eighteen months and we all got the shock of our lives when I feel pregnant naturally with P2. Its a much simpler way of doing things!

I never saw the doctor again but I’m told she’s a Mum herself now balancing parenthood with a strenuous career.  Her help that evening was a small gesture. It only took a moment of her time but that moment meant everything for our family. I will forever be indebted.

Grace all grown up.



Thankful Thursday

36 thoughts on “Small Gesture – BIG Difference

  1. Oh what a thoroughly adorable little girl!!!! I’ve never had this particular challenge, but I have enormous respect for people who have. One of my oldest and dearest friends, now 44, has never been able to have children, and yet she loves me (with my brood of ten) just the same…What a huge heart. She is not bitter, but I’m not sure I’d be that magnanimous! She’s amazing! Children sure are a blessing. I planned each and every one of mine and the longest I ever had to try was 10 months. I have on the other hand had 7 miscarriages!…

    • Your friend is amazing. If IVF had failed for us I would have been a wreck. Still I’m sure whilst your friend is greatly disappointed, she doesn’t want to lose all the other good things in her life which includes her friendships.
      Love Mumabulous

  2. Isn’t it amazing to look back on a situation or event and acknowledge that one tiny thing turned out to be so significant. My eldest daughter is Grace too – it is a beautiful name.
    Lovely post honey x

  3. Beautiful pictures. Gorgeous story. My nephew is an IVF baby and the most miraculous addition to our family x

  4. What a truly beautiful story 🙂 And one cutiepatootie little person to boot !!

  5. I love reading stories like this. Your little Grace is quite the angel too. What a perfect little face! So relieved to hear that second time around your
    Conception was much simpler. Thanks for linking up! Fi x
    P.S I love your writing style – very engaging & descriptive 🙂

  6. Thats a beautiful story, thanks for sharing x. I’m one of the women who did so much IVF I lost count of the number of cycles, but still no baby. On the plus side, I now have great skills with a hypodermic needle :-). The marriage ended not long after so I choose to believe that this was meant to be. Then I met a gorgeous single dad with a not quite 2 year old and I’ve got to enjoy parenthood through a different route. And my life is so much better now.

  7. what a beautiful story! We are so lucky to live in this day an age where medical miracles can work their magic. Your daughter is beautiful.

  8. The kindness of strangers! You can’t help but think it was all meant to be! What a lovely happy story. x

  9. That is such a wonderful story! A great one to tell Grace about later on. She was a gorgeous little baby and a cute and gorgeous little girl. Fantastic too that you got P2 with no fuss.

  10. What a wonderful story! I am so glad she was there for you when you needed her. And what a beautiful ray of sunshine you created! Congratulations on your second pregnancy. Zanni, Heart Mama. x

  11. I love looking back on times in our lives that seemed so hard, that made us feel like we weren’t going to make it, and knowing that our determination to keep on going, our ability to stay on the path, has seen us through in the end. And sometimes that means being brave enough to ask for help. How wonderful – such a small gesture for that doctor to help you – but first you had to be brave enough to ask for help. And now you have a gorgeous girl. Well done! Xoxo

  12. Reading this i can do relate as my babies were IVF miracles too. I had a lovely blue cooler bag, not quite as bright as orange. Isn’t it amazing we live in a world now that can help us in this way. And what an extra blessing that your second came narturally.

    Thankyou for linking up and sharing your story x

  13. oh, those GORGEOUS photos says it all. It’s hard to believe her life depended on such a tiny moment, she looks like she was meant to be here. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.

    • Thanks Enid.
      I’ve always felt that Gracie was meant to be here. She’s so full of life and spirit (sometimes too much spirit). Anywhow loved your roller derby story. You are a very, very brave lady but very cool with it.
      Love Mumabulous

  14. Beautiful story.
    Funnily enough I have a similarly named little miss after a slightly similar but also rather different event. Congrats on your beautiful girls. 🙂 x

  15. Such a gorgeous post! I’ve heard similar stories of women falling pregnant naturally after an IVF pregnancy, like the ovaries and uterus just needed a kick start or something? Gorgeous pics, thank you for sharing x

  16. What an amazing story! So glad that doctor was there and everything worked out for Grace to come into the world. 🙂

  17. just a small act of kindness yielded such an astronomical blessing! I’m visiting from Kate says stuff
    I can’t even imagine all that you went through, but I’m guessing it was all worth it! 🙂

  18. Gorgeous story of how little Grace came to be! It seriously came down to that one moment of magic!! I imagine it was so hard at the time, but so worth it in the end! xxxx

  19. Oh bless! I got abit teary reading that x

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