Pros and Cons


This post is not about ladies of the night and their Greek clientele.

Over the last week I’ve been walking around zombie like in a foggy daze. At times I am even zombie like literally as P2 finds my impersonation of the walking dead uproariously amusing. “Raargh, raargh, brains… I’m going to eat your brains raaargh”. Its comedy gold but I digress. The reason for my brain dead state is simple. I’m more tired than usual because I went back to work. Mumabulous is now Part Time ‘Abulous from Wednesday to Friday.  I’d love to tell you all the nitty gritty details of the job. Office goings on are fertile grounds for a blogger. Sadly however my colleagues are vaguely aware (but not greatly interested in) my online life and there is a miniscule chance they’ll read it. Therefore I am unable to entertain you at their expense. I will say that thankfully the company is about as far from stockbroking as you can get and the people are lovely.

I look the way I feel.

I look the way I feel.

Up until this point I was fretting irrationally about being consigned to life’s scrap heap because I wasn’t in the corporate groove.  I had this nagging sense that I should be doing something – anything not related to micro managing the kids and the household. This persistent feeling of inadequacy motivated me to start blogging as well as assisting Dadabulous with his evil plans for world domination.  Nevertheless the phrase “the longer you are out, the harder it is to get back in” kept repeating itself nefariously in my head. Now that I have finally fought my way back in, I’m facing a raft of new complications and inconveniences. I’m beginning to reconsider the wisdom of getting back in but its too late to pull out. Like the lunatics in the asylum, I’m committed.

I'm committed.

I’m committed.

In an attempt to balance the work/life equation the pros and cons of the situation are laid out below.


The office is a 10 minute drive from home.

They are happy with me working from 9.30 to 4.30 so that I can oversee the school drop off.

The office is a 10 minute walk from the purveyor of the best Vietnamese BBQ chicken rolls like EVER!

I can eat, sip tea and go to the bathroom uninterrupted.

Whilst in the office I am not distracted by my housework.

Whilst in the office I am not distracted by social media. Spending all day on Facebook and Twitter would be a bad, bad look.

The dress code is smart casual and high heels are not required. Hoorah!

I get to use new-fangled software like a proper office type person.

Once the basics are mastered, I might be able to expand the role to take in things I really enjoy like expanding the business’ Social Media presence.  Hence I will be able to spend all day on Twitter and FB and no one will raise an eyebrow. (Unless I start posting shirtless Fass, which has been known to happen).

A gaping hole in my resume has finally been sealed.

Now I gaze at this view.

Now I gaze at this view.


Double drop offs are a stress like no other. I arrive at work feeling exhausted.

The nearest decent cappuccino is a 10 minute walk from the office. Surely it is against some UN charter to subject workers to such appalling conditions.

My work wardrobe is practically fossilized. The corporate attire hanging in my closets is aged between 7 to 10 years. I can tell you with some smugness that most of it still fits. (Fist pumps the air). It would be great to rock and updated look but there’s no window in my schedule for shopping.

This includes grocery shopping. Now we have to tackle that chore as a family on the weekend.

I could not immediately get a place for P1 in After School Care. I’ve hired a nanny to do the afternoon pick up until a spot becomes available. So far she’s been wonderful but its taking a substantial chunk of my after tax pay.

Previously I had very little time to myself to do things like get a haircut, go for a swim, catch up with friends, enjoy a quite coffee or gaze lovingly into the eyes of the Fass or the Hiddles* or Clive Owen or Colin Firth or Jon Hamm or Jermaine Clement or Antonio etc etc. Now I have zilch, zero, nada and my roots really need a retouch. ( I’m talking about my hair you smutty, smutty people).

What the heck am I going to do over the freakin’ school holidays? I should have thought about that before I flung caution and my resume to the wind.

Instead of this one.

Instead of this one.

Am I crazy? How do you guys make it work?



* Actor Tom Hiddleston with whom I am experiencing the first flush of luuuurve. He’s so smiley. If he were a muppet he’d be Guy Smiley.

Friday night wine time will take on added significance. Cheers Hiddles.

Friday night wine time will take on added significance. Cheers Hiddles.

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38 thoughts on “Pros and Cons

  1. Sounds like there are a lot of pros for you. My brother and SIL use vacation care or the generosity relatives during school holidays. Sipping tea, eating and going to the bathroom uninterrupted sounds heavenly. Enjoy. x

  2. That first sentence is PRICELESS!!! Good luck with it. I’m finding the working and mothering quite exhausting.

  3. Holy shitballs Mab (I’ve decided to abbreviate you Brenda, I hope you don’t mind), thats awesome news! Congrats on job jackpotting! Did I tell my semi-regular gig freelancing at the med company is experiencing a quiet patch? (crickets) so I’m back to the Seek ads and the endless letters that don’t elicit a response. Oh joy.
    Tips? Woolies shop online. Delivery after 7pm. Order up BIG and skip delivery fee. YMCA does school vacation programs – check out your local. Your school would too. Book them in now. Oh, and don’t ever, ever, consider letting you or either child getting sick, ever again. May the Schwartz be with you.

  4. I don’t know, I feel strung out and exhausted and sick and tired and strung out and my hair is TERRIBLE just terrible. But the coffee and loo visiting time at work is excellent as is the fact that the work is not stressful but well paid. If only I didn’t have to drive for hours to get there and back. If it was more than two days a week it might kill me. Good luck my friend. It’s an imperfect world x

  5. You could just start professional blogging. BYO armour! Love your guts lady, make me laugh xxx

  6. Congrats on the new fancy-pants-two-monitors-drinking-tea-unaccompanied-toileting role! I have no expertise in this area, but I shake a mean pompom. Can I audition to be a founding member of the Mumabulous Back to Work Cheer Squad?

  7. How do I make it work?? I’ll let you know when I’ve figured out that one myself 🙂 On the upside, having an uninterrupted lunch (even if it is short, and occasionally marking or duty interrupts) is still a highlight :). Today I’m having a hot lunch date to eat sushi with a friend. The kidlets are at home, and ee both have the same 30 minutes off. Huzzah! Good luck with the school holidays XO.

  8. Fab news Brenda! I hope the pros will outweigh the cons and give you some balance (although it all depends on one’s definition of ‘balance’!) Must be something in the air atm cos my paid work is increasing as of this week too. I have the luxury of working from home – so no corporate wardrobe required but the coffee is never as good as it is when you’re ‘out’! As a coping mechanism I choose to completely neglect the housework. It’s that or neglect the kids so I figure the dust bunnies can fend for themselves. I hope you’ll be able to keep up the blogging, even if posts are less frequent. We’d miss all the naked crumpet…sorry, I mean we’d miss your clever words!

    • I’m aiming to do three posts a week but doubtless the quality will suffer. Anyhow I think Dadabulous is becoming concerned about the amount of time I am spending looking a shirtless hunks on line. He doesn’t realize its a sacrifice I have to make for art 😉

  9. Congrats on the new gig! Work and family is hard, and in our household Kirsty does the heavy lifting because I work so far from home (an hour drive) – I am impressed and inspired by everyone who manages the kid drop-off / pick-up, and work. Way to go!

  10. Are you kidding??? I don’t make it work and I am in awe that you have gone back to work and can still find time to blog. My blog went in to hiatus for months because I felt so exhausted. I am so with you on the whole shopping thing. When do people find time to shop???

  11. Give yourself some time to get the hang of it and let Dad-abulous know that now your out of the house 3 days a week he could probably step-up his side of the dreaded housework equation! If he quibbles show him one of those studies that indicate that men who do mroe housework get more sex 🙂

  12. Hi Mumabulous… I am about to venture back in to the work force (job offer pending)… and whilst my great coffee might be closer, my kids are not quite school age and I cannot get into a day care for love or money!! We are using alternate arrangements (great au pair) and I can work 9.30 to 4.00 which is super too… BUT I am TERRIFIED!!! Still I think your pros outweigh the cons and I am taking this as inspiration! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  13. Nice work getting a job! I hate having to go to work, I would not have gone back, but at the same time, my job is so cushy, and my boss so flexible that it makes sense to keep my toes dipped in the water for about 20 hours a week. Now that Dave has started his new roster rotation we could probably afford for me to take a longer time of after this baby but I do kind of like the break and being able to go to the bathroom by myself. It will all depend on childcare really, if it costs more to send them there so I can work we might have to re-think it all, but we’ll cross that bridge when weet to it!

  14. I so wish you good luck on your journey, I tried the “return” to work and threw in the towel after 4 years. Now I am contemplating wetting my feet again …….
    WHY WHY WHY I am pondering yet another return I cant tell you ! but I do hope that you are able to follow our dreams and make it all work.
    Happy Friday x

  15. Lots of pros – believe me it all just falls into place.

  16. Sounds like there are worst things that you could be doing in terms of work. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses lovely hope you slip yourself into a lovely new groove

  17. I went back to work part time a year ago. It is not at all on pay with my pre-kids job but the pros (local, family friendly, ok pay, no stress, work/life balance etc, etc) made it worth it. Congrats on the new job, boo on the lack of decent coffee though.

  18. I find it incredible that you can do all of that. Well done, congratulate yourself and add to the pro list that you are proving to yourself how bloody fantastic you can be!
    Becc @ Take Charge Now

  19. Thanks for this, it made me feel much less alone. I have been going over the same dilemma myself. Should I go back to work, on the scrap heap, what the hell and I contributing to the world? Also I found myself getting serious pangs of envy over people and their work wardrobes – I mean, I really have NO reason to not be in shorts or yoga pants … and I really want one. But then there is the after school stuff, the school holidays – Oh it’s all too hard. Sorry I can’t help with your dilemma – but it was nice to know it wasn’t just me who had these thoughts : )

  20. you are so funny! sounds full on but fun! # FYBF

  21. Good for you. Sure it’s crazy but its good crazy. Dropping by from fybf.

  22. Congrats muma – I bet it’s nice to feel loved, wanted and needed by employers again! It will be a tough juggling act for sure but worth it! Love your work 🙂 Em

  23. My tip is to fill out the vacation care forms AS SOON AS YOU SEE THEM and scan and email them back ASAP. Or throw yourself on the mercy of relatives, should you be (un)lucky enough to have any within throwing distance?

  24. I’ll be following your new career path with great fervour! I’ve been thinking about going back to the joys of an office but have been too chicken. I’m terrible at juggling at it is. Throw in a job and I’ll be in a corner sobbing in the foetal position.

    Good luck! You’re going to rock it!

    And, for the record, Guy Smiley rocks too! 🙂

    • I was out for over 5 years. Give yourself a break and just focus on your gorgeous twins for now. BTW: rock hard abs are all well and good but nothing beats a Smiley Guy.

  25. I’m not sure about balancing everything, (I think that will be an ongoing battle no matter our decisions) but I did enjoy the laugh!

  26. Oh, I love part time work (I teach high school 3 days a week) and it’s the uninterrupted cuppa and toilet-stop that seals the deal for me. When you get into the groove, it’ll be super! What’s the go with the long-distance Cappuccino though? Can you get a coffee PA written into your contract? x

  27. I am so impressed. I think I have posted just twice since going back to paid work six weeks ago. Charlotte’s Musings now happen only inside my head. While I clean my teeth at 10 o’clock at night, wondering where in the heck I will get the energy to do it all over again tomorrow…
    Go you. Love your work as always…

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